Being a server is tricky. Sometimes I feel awful at the end of the day, for playing in to the hypersexualized male gaze. In my experience I’ve never had a woman belittle or infant Alize me, but every day I get at least one man calling me a “squirrel” or “darling” or reaching out for the food and holding on a second too long to my hands.

It’s bullshit. And if you get upset, because you feel like you’re being treated like less than a person, they get mad and co plain, “I’ll tell your manager about your attitude.” Like standing up for your rights as a human being is an attitude.