The stares, eyes rolling and snickered whispering. We keep walking as if nothing’s wrong. As if we’re not being completely victimized from head to toe. Crop tops, short skirts, booty shorts…any women who dares to wear this type of clothing is considered a slut, a whore, she’s a HOE.
I LOVE clothes. Styling different things together to make a bomb ass outfit is one of my favorite things to do. I express myself through my fashion choices. If I’m feeling myself, then hell yes, I’m going to wear a full face of makeup, hair done to perfection, and most likely something that shows a little skin. Please don’t be offended, but I mean, come on, we’re not living in the 1800s anymore…a girl should be allowed to show some stomach and not have judgement thrown at her, right? Sadly, I’m wrong.
Slut shaming is something that has been engrained into our society. “Oh my god I can’t believe she’s wearing that; you can see her entire stomach…she’s such a whore.” Woman are criticized because, to most, we have violated certain behavioral expectations created by society; this is perceived through appearance. Slut shaming isn’t always done by guys, in fact, it’s typically done by other girls. Jealousy, insecurity, and competition; all are reasons why women judge other women based off of their appearances.
Let’s dive in a little deeper…
Jealousy. It’s an extremely contagious phenomenon that derives from envy. Sadly, it’s very easy to become jealous of someone else. We see it all around us, all the time. Women put other women down because they are jealous of them. Five words… She. Looks. Like. A. SLUT.
Insecurity. Women tend to bring other women down because they feel insecure about themselves. I have a friend who has extremely low self-esteem and constantly needs reassurance from other people that she looks good. When she doesn’t receive that reassurance, she makes other people feel bad about themselves to make herself feel better.
I’m sure we all know someone like this.
A lot of people (not just women) act like this because they don’t have enough self-confidence to feel comfortable about who they truly are. It’s extremely upsetting that derailing other women, leads to allaying ourselves. Women need to support women. How else are we going to rule the world one day?
Competition. Derived from spite. Women competing against one another is unnecessary and completely undermines the goal of a feminist. Yet, we still do it. Don’t get me wrong, a little competition is good for the soul, but when a person is continuously being attacked with name calling and debating about who’s “prettier”, that’s when I draw the line.
Isn’t it funny how the way we dress can influence the type of person we’re made out to be? Who knew clothing had so much power over us?
Now don’t get me wrong, I love fashion and clothes, but the clothing we wear does not define the person we are. Even if it did, being a so-called “slut” does not make you a bad person, it makes you human.What is considered to be “slutty” anyway? Hooking up with a couple guys now and then? Women are considered hoes if we have casual sex, but guys are just being “guys”, and, in fact, actually get rewarded for hooking up with multiple women. Wow. This could honestly be a whole other topic for discussion, but to sum things up really quick: Sorry to tell all the judgmental people out there, but girls like sex too, and there is NOTHING wrong with that. Women should be allowed to wear whatever we want and feel comfortable enough to flaunt our fierce and beautiful bodies, without judgement.
What a perfect world that would be.
ShoutOut! James Madison University 
YESS! I’m so glad you said this. I think you hit it right on the nail when you said jealousy, competition and insecurity. I’ve never understood the dynamic of hating on another female. Like we can all be beautiful in our own way and we can all attract different people. Like you said women need to support other women. I truly believe supporting each other will break this cycle of disgust with one another. I’m with you girl, if you got it show it! I’m happy to see it 😀 !
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It crazy reading this and relating to every single point that I may never have thought or talked about before. I agree with everything your’e saying but most importantly I recognized how other woman bring down one another almost constantly. And I have always asked myself why that is. It’s hard not to be sensitive when it feels like every which direction you turn your’e being judge by people whom you may have never met. Its sad to think that people slut shame other people when they know how it feels to be on the receiving end.
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It crazy reading this and relating to every single point that I may never have thought or talked about before. I agree with everything you’re saying but most importantly I recognized how other women bring down one another almost constantly. And I have always asked myself why that is. It’s hard not to be sensitive when it feels like every which direction you turn you’re being judged by people whom you may have never met. It’s sad to think that people slut-shame other people when they know how it feels to be on the receiving end.
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YES! It makes me think….is this how I would dress if I would not see anyone I know would comment or judge my outfit today? I always think of L.A. or NYC and how girls where the most out of the box, abnormal, maybe a bit risqué (in the eyes of the public) outfits, and are seen as iconic. However, if we wear something slightly revealing here in a mountain college town, we are seen as being a whore or trying too hard. I think as a society we are progressing more into the YAS SIS you wear and do whatever tf you want…but it is still engrained in us that we need to keep our shoulders covered if we want some respect.
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This is a great post! It’s something that most of our society doesn’t even think about when we talk. As a society, we should really step back and look at our speech and thoughts and honestly, mind our own business.
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