Feminist Lessons From My Father

Now let me paint a picture of my dad, he is a known republican who spends most of his free time hunting and fishing. He also is the most intelligent and loving man I have ever known. This past weekend I spent in the deer stand with my dad and I came to the realization that there are so many lessons I have learned from him, and many of these lessons are what made me the feminist I am today. They are…

  1. How to be the protector. I was taught at a very young age that we stand up for those we care about and those who can not stand up for themselves. This has guided me in my friendships, my family dynamics, and most importantly my feminism. To be the protector I must be a intersectional feminist, I was taught to support equality for EVERYONE regardless of differences.post 3 11:28.gifVia Giphy 
  2. I was taught how to shoot a gun, cast a line, and shoot an arrow. Hunting and fishing is a long practiced tradition in my family. It is how my grandparents survived the great depression, and how my family survived the recession in 2008. Being able tp provide for my family is one strength in its own. The main lesson I have learned from this is how to protect myself. I am not saying I am against gun control, not at all, however, growing up with this environment I have been taught skills that gives me the confidence that I can protect myself. And this my friends is one of my main sources of independence. I do not look to men for my safety, I protect myself. post 11:28.gifVia giphy 
  3.  What good music is. As you can tell from my past posts, music is a major influence in my life. My dad introduced classic rock, blue grass, and classic country to me while growing up, #deadheads. Now we have this shared bond of music, even though we have several differences music provides us with the connection unlike most. post 2 11:28Via Discogs
  4. Not to judge a book by its cover. As cliche as this sound it is a valuable lesson. My dad comes off as a very open conservative, redneck, and old fashion man, as the majority of my facebook timeline does. However, my dad supports my independence, my wanderlust, my strive for equality. So there’s always something more than what is seemed at the surface.

 

My dad has taught me many many more lessons, like how to grille or check my oil. However, these four feministic lessons I thought were important to share. My mom and brother also teach me numerous things through out life and I love them dearly for it, but feminist lessons from a father are unique. My challenge for you all today is to think back on your relationship with your parents and guardians, how you might disagree and struggle to bond. And think about the underlying lessons that might be there. Find the positives in disagreement and be thankful for the education and impact they have had on your life.

xoxo

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6 thoughts on “Feminist Lessons From My Father

  1. A big problem we have in society and that we are dualistic thinkers. If one person is not one way they are the extreme of the opposite. Because of this we forget that not everyone agrees with everything that happens in the world. Your father is prime example that even the more traditional people have the awareness to know when something is not right. Patriarchy is not right and should be destroyed. The fact that your father has instilled these ideals in you says a lot about him as a person and I think we all can agree that he is “woke”. My father is similar in that he is a conservative republican but he has never limited me or prohibited me from being my true self and expressing it. The most conservative individuals will surprise you.

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  2. I think is really important. This article shows that feminist values can emerge and develop in several different ways. I also think it is really important family members or relatives, friends, and just men support women and help them continue to develop into strong independent people. This article also recognizes that it is okay for fathers to help support and the feminist movement and stray from the typical exceptions of men in society.. It is a positive thing and it is important for fathers to support their young girls and help bring an end to a male dominated society.

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  3. I agree, sometimes we get caught up with blaming the patriarchy and saying patriarchy = men; that we do not step back to realize that not all men are bad. And no one is perfect. I think that everyone ends up being both consciously and unconsciously self-reflexive growing up as one takes on traits and customs that they learn from their family members or guardians. You bring up a vital challenge to think back on our pasts and see what made us the individuals, the feminists, the advocates, the activists some of us are today. What brought us here and what are lessons that we learned. Thank you for challenging us to do this and thank you for this post!

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  4. I love this! I also have a close relationship with my dad and although he has taught me different lessons I can still identify with your post! This was so raw and inspiring and such a great tribute to your father!!

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  5. I a lot of people can relate to this article. I learned a lot of my values from my parents as well, and they made me into the strong, passionate, feminist I am today. They have taught me a lot and never treated me differently from my brother, which is very important. These concepts are very important to remember in the future when we raise the future generation. This article was very good, and I think it is important to remember when we think about the future and what we want to see.

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  6. I really enjoyed this article. I come from a very similar family and could really resinate with your points. Learning to hunt and fish is something to be proud of in my family and knowing that I could support myself with it is a feminist ideal that I think is often overlooked. I have two sisters, though we have all been raised as strong woman, and thrown in to projects with our male cousins. Seeing others being raced equal to boys makes me realize how grateful I am to personally have been brought up that way.

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