Porn Sucks

I hate porn. I am a 21 year old dude who hates porn. Porn sucks.

In writing on the matter, I have to admit that porn was, at one point, a part of my daily life. It is for this reason I can adamantly speak against it. I hate what it did to me. I hate the lasting effects it has had on me. I hate the ability it had to dictate my thoughts, feelings, instincts and judgements. Porn sucks.

Porn is detrimental to any man who is seeking to honor a woman. Porn portrays women as objects to be used for the satisfaction of a man’s sexual needs only. There are millions of men today, viewing porn, who are engraining in their minds the idea that a women is simply a breathing creature that offers one purpose; sexual pleasure. As a man seeking to honor women, I refuse to watch porn because it will, undoubtedly, form expectations in my mind that women are at the disposal of men. Porn sucks.

Porn ruins love. Porn depicts a lie that cannot be replicated in your actual life. Seeing image after image of something that is unattainable and unrealistic sets false expectations for your spouse or loved one. Studies have shown that the more a person looks at porn the less satisfied they are with their partner. They are less satisfied with their partner’s appearance and performance because they have developed false hopes about what they believe a sexual experience should entail. Who would want to subject themselves to a virtual world that will leave them dissatisfied with the people who actually love you and care for you? Porn sucks.

Porn creates dependence. It is highly addictive. Addiction sucks. Scarier yet, research has shown that habitual porn usage desensitizes your brain from feeling the effects of dopamine. That is, if you perpetually watch porn, things that used to make you happy will not register in your brain as being a strong enough pleasure to bring you happiness. Even science hates porn. Furthermore, porn offers a temporary solution for anxiety, depression and loneliness but it is proven to make all of these problems worse in the long run. That’s because the addictive nature of pornography predicates loneliness. The more you watch pornography, the more your brain connects sexual arousal with a screen and thus, the harder it becomes to be aroused by an actual person. This creates feelings of inadequacy, discontentment, self-doubt and a whole variety of other insecurities. But the biggest feeling it perpetuates is that of loneliness because you are replacing human connection with a veneer that cannot satisfy our innate desire to relate to others. Porn sucks.

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The Porn industry is evil, not only because of the negative effects it has on those who watch it, but on the actual actors. Porn generally portrays the women being filmed as enjoying what’s happening but more often than not, they are being forced into their job through violence, drugs and verbal abuse. Regan Starr, a former porn actress, said,

I got the shit kicked out of me. Most of the girls start crying because they’re hurting so bad. I couldn’t breathe. I was being hit and choked. I was really upset and they didn’t stop. They kept filming. [I asked them to turn the camera off] and they kept going.”

Porn usage is so common today. People don’t think twice about it because it is so accessible and instantly gratifying. But it is ruining lives. So practice some self-control for your sake and for the sake of the beaten and battered girls you are getting off too. Porn sucks. 

One thought on “Porn Sucks

  1. I really like the repetition in this post, it worked as a writing strategy to get your point across. I also like that you have a direct quote from a former porn star who was put through such a traumatic time.
    I think a lot of porn does degrade people (especially women or feminine-identifying folks). Though there is also porn out there trying to work against that violent, objectifying lens. I think those sites and groups making more feminist porn are onto something–porn does not have to be so degrading.
    Good post!

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