Shows like this are definitely misogynistic and set unrealistic standards. Reading this makes me glad I haven’t watched a dating show since Flavor of Love (and that one was bad too). I think another thing about these types of shows that sends out a bad vibe is this heteronormative bull–men have to be overtly masculine and muscular and independent, while the women are model-esque and, as you mentioned, define themselves through a man. The only exception to this that I recall was the dating show with Tila Tequila because she was bi-sexual. I’m sure that one had its flaws, too.
Good post!