*Disclaimer: Video Contains Crude Language*
So I was browsing through Facebook the other day when I found a video that caught my eye. The title read “Dude In Yoga Pants Catches Guys Staring at His Butt.” (link) I have to say I was intrigued because as a woman, who loves wearing leggings/yoga pants, I sometimes catch guys staring at my butt (what little there is anyway). I thought to myself, wow! A guy finally had the same experience. Perhaps he too felt violated and annoyed that a random guy would look at his prized possession. As I started the video, I realized it was much more than a guy complaining about his butt being looked at…
The video starts off with the actor looking in his trunk to retrieve an object. As he is leaning over, he makes sure to keep an eye out for other men passing behind him. His butt is clearly out as he bends over and it is quite noticeable from the tight pants that he is wearing. The first guy to come by stares quite blatantly at his behind. The actor turns swiftly and asks the guy if he was checking out his butt. The guy is so stunned and shocked that the actor was not a woman that he takes a second to recover and quickly says “naw man.” He denies even looking at his butt which was definitely a lie as seen by the video camera capturing his wandering eyes. The video continues with this happening over and over but with different men looking at the actor.
The reactions of these guys were priceless. Some of them were cool about it and stated they thought the actor was a girl and tried to walk away shyly. Others however, were not as chill about the situation. A few grew very defensive and angry at their own failure to recognize the actor was in fact a man. They turned their embarrassment into anger and some even tried to fight the actor. I found this very interesting in that the guys could not take the fact that they were a little embarrassed or had made a mistake. The mistake challenged their sexuality which was more than they could bear.
They had to turn to anger which is a more acceptable emotion in today’s society for men to show. It is not masculine to be embarrassed or upset in front of other people. It is masculine to try and beat up another person, or to raise your voice in anger. Those who could not admit to mistaking a guy butt for a girl butt had to show how masculine they were by flipping out on the actor, cussing at him, belittling him, and trying to hurt him.
The fact that men have to show off how much of a man they are by acting like they are going to start a fight is a sad reality. The actor was of course baiting them and asking over and over why they looked at his butt, but the reactions some of these men had were ridiculous. Women deal with this type of scenario every day. (Which is another sad fact.) Finally, someone challenged these men and asked why they felt the need to stare at someone else’s butt, guy or girl. It is also interesting to notice that women who get stared at on a daily basis do not act the same way as this actor. Most barely stand up for themselves and attempt to ignore the stares. It is not safe for women to react the way the actor did, hell it was even unsafe for the actor and he’s a guy!!! Unfortunately, most women are just left feeling violated. Men have to feel a sort of power over staring at a woman, knowing they can’t do anything about it. This video brings up many issues about gender and while it is also kind of funny, it shows just how much men need to be masculine and what women go through for them to feel that way.
What do you all think of these reactions? Have you ever noticed your butt was getting some curious looks? How did you feel?