**Trigger warning**Sexual content and language**
A couple weeks back, I had written about a ridiculously ignorant and sexist email titled, “Save the Sluts,” sent by a member of the college of William & Mary’s Sigma Chi fraternity chapter.
When discussing that email, I had made a call to action; to not let something as profoundly mindless as that be slid under the rug. I told my readers to point out such incidences so others can realize there are those in our world who still have the mind capacity of a rock. Or to be more literal, people who perpetuate injustice and inequality between human beings.
Exactly how I found out about the “Save the Sluts” email, I received a text from one of my best friends telling to me to read an article she had sent me the link to. And the sad part is, a young man from JMU—my own school—shared the article on his Facebook. Who, if I might also add, has a girlfriend…..
The article was titled, “Skills Vs. Serendipity: Why Men are Studs and Women Are Sluts,” and I’m definitely not letting this slide under the radar either.
It begins by saying:
“’Like oh my god, I can’t believe our societal double standard. Why is it that men can fuck around and be studs, while if I fuck too many dudes, I’m a slut?’ That’s a question many a young lady has asked herself as she fandangos her iPhone filled with text messages from the two guys she is currently banging at random intervals and a few others who she may bang in the future.”’
As you can tell the young author, Raul Felix, is off to a fantastic start of demonstrating ignorance at its best; sexism.
The author’s argument is the reason why the stereotype that girls are considered “sluts” if they’ve had many sexual encounters with different men, and in turn, men are looked up to by doing the same, still exists because:
“It requires absolutely no skill whatsoever on a chicks part to get a dick to fill her up…. a man who is able to secure sex from various women is considered a stud. All a woman has to do is: look relatively decent, show up to a place where men gather, not be a bitch, and open her legs.”
He continues to state:
“In a capitalistic society, we value skill over mediocrity. The skills of being a stud are so hard to acquire that only a small percentage of men are able to accomplish it, in turn, society holds it in prestige. While the low level skill of being a slut can easily be mastered by any chick with a shitty enough upbringing.”
Well Mr. Raul, sorry to break it to you, but you are deeply and undoubtedly mistaken.
For one, you are mistaken in that you actually believe females’ brains are only aware and capable of handling one thing; sex.
You are mistaken to think that we are merely objects who stagger around aimlessly, hoping for our next prospect to be intimate with, and you also are greatly mistaken to assume that females are the mediocre and males are the valuable.
For you to state that “casual and random sex for you girls is a pure act of serendipity” or chance, shows again that you are wrong. The act of casual sex happens the same way for both male and female; BY CHOICE. Not as you oh-so-ignorantly put it: By skill for men and luck by women.
Also through your very descriptive analysis of all the “chick bullshit” females put men through when they are trying to achieve their sexual goals, demonstrates that most females are more selective. Therefore, they are more capable of excluding repulsive men like you from evolving with offspring; which may be best for the future of our society.
For you to think and state all of those things, simply proves that you have—as I said earlier about a similar individual—the mental capacity of a rock.
But what’s most evident, is that your argument is tremendously flawed. The stereotype “studs vs. sluts” does not exist through men’s skills and women’s incompetence, but because there are people still in our society, like you.
YOU are the reason why such a stereotype still perpetuates generations and plagues young minds. YOU are the reason why gender equality is nonexistent, and YOU are the reason for your own unhappiness and misfortune when seeking intimacy with anyone who is the slightest bit honest.
So to my readers once again, when things like this come onto your radar, please, please, PLEASE do something about it. As I said before, without others’ realization of problems our society still has to tackle—such as individuals who wrote this article—there will be no change.
Clearly, gender perceptions still need to be dealt with and the only way that will happen, is with your help.