I appreciate you sharing such a personal experience about forced sexual misconduct with the public. That is something so brave – something that many femmes who have experienced something of a similar nature, myself included, have not had the courage to do. Breaking the silence is such a huge part of understanding the femme experience, of educating those who cannot empathize with what we have been through.

I know exactly what is like to experience that feeling of self-blame. Maybe if I hadn’t been drinking as much, if I had been more assertive, if I stood up for myself, maybe I could have stopped it. Obviously my experience was different from yours, but I can draw so many similarities to your thought process. So many of us have internalized the victim-blaming culture. It’s toxic to mental health. But, regardless of the “degree” of your experience, your feelings are still valid.