My friend is doing a project about dating apps and websites, so I decided to join OkCupid to help him out with the research. I have never been on a dating website before, simply because I wasn’t willing to pay the money, but OKCupid is 100% free and 100% weird. I find it almost impossible to actually find someone you’re compatible with on this site. I spent about 1 hour filling out all of this information about myself for my profile, to receive countless emails of men who were major creeps. I will say that I did set myself up, because it says on my page I am looking for short romance and casual sex, which has led me to receive these messages. Some of the messages though, I feel like are completely uncalled for. One of them reads…..
“Baby imma freak, I’m tryna fuck till your legs go weak, I know it so well I’m a sex geek. Sweat so hard make you hit your peak, a little longer then fix my leak. My dick fat like ya asscheek. A good time is what I seek!” From KillaCamxo Okay, so two problems with this…. 1. If he’s trying to be a rapper, he should stop. 2. Even if I put I was interested in casual sex on the page it doesn’t mean that my body is an object, I still would like a hi how are you, alas, this guy blew it. (The sad part was he was really cute!) Another problem, I have with this website, is all the older men that hit on me. This guy who is 62 tried to chat with me, and trust me I’m not into older men, especially a man who is older than my father. Now I’m not judging anyone for the relationships they possess, but in my profile, I exclaimed that I am only interested in males & females age 18 to 24. I just felt very uncomfortable with the contact, not flattered at all, and I’ve received countless messages from 30 and 40 year olds. It just shows that these men don’t really fully read the profile to understand where you’re coming from. On the flip side of that there have been some men who have messaged me saying that they like my advocacy work, I only get a few of those messages.
I mean OKCupid is pretty decent for being free, and this is only my experience, so maybe other people have experienced something different. I just am increasingly feeling used by these men and I don’t know how to feel about it. As I’m writing this blog, I changed my what I’m looking for section to short term and long term dating. I do wonder if that will change anything, I will keep you posted, if you’re truly interested. My main advice is to be careful with online dating, if you don’t feel comfortable with some of the people, know you always have the right to block them, delete their message, or even confront them. This one guy messaged me who was 42 and said hey beautiful and I responded, “Hey, I’m 21 your 42, how is this going to work? Good luck with love!” I hope everyone can have the potential to find love, and if they choose to do so online, Match.com is probably better.