Hey there readers!
Redheadfemme is back for this semester and I am so excited to continue exploring feminism through blogging! As the semester progresses, I’d like to focus my posts on body confidence and media’s negative influence on women’s self-esteem. The other day I was scrolling through my Instagram newsfeed and I noticed a particular quote, which is “ Eat whatever you want, and if anyone tries to lecture you about your weight, eat them too”. I broke into laughter in the middle of the library, which was incredibly awkward and embarrassing, but I don’t care because I absolutely adore this quote. I’m even making it into a poster so I can put it in my apartment kitchen as motivation TO eat that last slice of pie, pizza, cake or anything else dangerously delicious.
I’m tired of Thinspiration quotes, pictures, and stories infiltrating my social media feeds making me feel guilty and ashamed of my body. January is the reigning king of body-guilt months. I mean, I never feel worse about my body than after three months of binge-tastic holiday celebrations. Additionally, I am constantly bombarded with messages from all types of media with helpful tips to “lose that winter weight” and get “ bikini-ready”. Which is so ridiculous because what exactly is “ bikini-ready”? The logical answer would be a body in a bikini, but ladies; we all know that is not the case. Swimsuit phobia IS real and nothing gives me more anxiety than the thought of publicly displaying my body after those winter months, all in fear that I will be judged as too “fat”. JK Rowling weighs in on the ridiculous stigma associated with this dreaded word, “ Is fat really the worst thing a human being can be? Is fat worse than vindictive, jealous, shallow, vain, boring, evil or cruel? Not to me”. The goddess has spoken the gospel truth readers, for it is exceedingly dumb that women worry about being labeled fat. Unfortunately, that does not diminish the weight (pun intended) that the word carries.
I’ve personally struggled with body issues since I was eleven years old and it has been a constant battle to ignore my negative thoughts and instead embrace my natural curvy figure. It has, however, become easier after I got rid of my scale. There is a unhealthy addiction to weighing oneself and my mood would change drastically depending on the number I saw on the screen that morning. I wasted too much energy on worrying about that unimportant number so I just threw it out one day and I feel a lot better.
I’m happy that I can now eat a donut, appreciate the hell out of it, and not give a damn that it might “ ruin my figure”. Margaret Atwood once said “ devouring without guilt, which is also an art”. My resolution for the New Year is to ignore the hateful “Thinspo” traffic and replace it with empowering messages. The average size of the American woman is a 14, and yet, all we see in the media are women who are a size 0-2. I’m a size 10 and will never be able to squeeze my booty into anything less than that, and that’s ok. If anyone tries to tell me anything different, well, I’ll just have to eat them. Do you ever feel pressure from the media to look a certain way? Let me know what you guys think!