Does being a confident sexy woman mean that you are buying into the stereotypical persona of a sexy woman?
Over the years there have been many women who have been sex icons like Marilyn Monroe, Britney Spears or Pamela Anderson. Do these women who are famous for being sex icons degrade us as women?
I have had my differences on some women who have been sex icons because I didn’t understand why they had to take that sexual route to gain fame or to be successful. People like Britney Spears and Pamela Anderson I felt at times just used their “sexiness” to get into the headlines, like what crazy thing would they do next. Don’t get me wrong I have loved Britney Spears since I was young but it doesn’t mean I agree with every choice she has made over her career. Like when she had to wear her underwear on the outside of her outfit in her music video I’m a Slave 4 U. You then have the women like Lindsay Lohan and Paris Hilton who don’t even wear underwear and flash their crotch for the whole world to see. Now that is called being class-less.
Then you have someone like Marilyn Monroe who is the epitome of an American sex icon. When I was younger I use to think that Marilyn Monroe was just seen as this dumb blonde who would dress and act in a slutty manner and I didn’t feel like she was representing women properly. But I watched a documentary on her and saw that she was an inspiration for women who were of large sizes. She was actually a size 10 -12. She had an extreme hourglass figure which gave her those famous curves. She had made women who weren’t the stick thin feel beautiful and sexy. She didn’t care what size she was she would just own what she had can her confidence is what made her sexy.
From my own experience trying to be a strong sexy woman does mean that I have to wear short skirts, have perfect hair, or have tons of makeup on. Being a sexy woman is from the way you act. It is having that heir of confidence always surrounding you. It’s that movie montage moment where everyone notices that one woman enter the room and you can feel that immediate pulsation of confidence and sexiness run through her veins.
I had a moment like that recently actually. I was going to this gathering with some old friends and frankly I looked like a wreck. I had no makeup on, my hair was in a pony tail because it was half curly half straight. I have had less then 12 hours of sleep in total for the past four nights and had been running around since Monday, and it was now Thursday. I was talking to some of my guy friends and I mentioned how gross I looked and they both said I looked pretty. At first I thought they were kidding with me because they always pull stuff like that on me but after joking with them I saw they were actually sincere and I couldn’t believe it. The first thing I thought was well then I shouldn’t even bother getting dressed up anymore to go out, but then I thought it wasn’t my appearance they were necessarily talking about it was how I held myself together throughout the event. Since I knew most of the guys there I would go give hugs and ask them about themselves and eventually more of them would just come over to me to talk. It was that heir of confidence I was giving off that pulled them in. It was my personality that was making me attractive not the way I looked.
So being a confident strong woman is what makes you sexy. If our sex icons in our society today didn’t have that heir of confidence surrounding them, people wouldn’t think twice about them. Being sexy is being comfortable in our own skin and owning what you have and letting everyone know it. So next time you are feeling not cute or beautiful think about bringing our outside in, showing everyone your personality and who are is what makes you a sexy confident woman.