Why sorority culture is toxic From a former sorority girl
For most girls, trying to fit in at college seems like a huge obstacle to overcome. Many women in college decide to rush sororities, greek organizations, in order to make new friends and bond with those of similar interests. Although being in a sorority may sound like a dream to some, it unfortunately has toxic traits within its culture. Starting off, there is a process called “rush,” basically where members of the chapters evaluate you based on looks and personality. This is a very judgmental and superficial process because chapters tend to pick out the youngest of the girls, so they can be in the chapters the longest, and they judge based on your appearance. Coming from experience, sororities at my school tend to choose skinny, blonde, and fake tanned women.
Following that point, women of color and plus size women are often discriminated against in sorority culture because they do not fit their chapter’s “look” of the typical white, pretty, blonde girl. You do not see many women of color in greek life. I have noticed that particularly southern schools fall more into this category. Adding on to the process of rushing, there are dues to be paid when joining a sorority. These dues can range anywhere from 300 to 10,000 dollars, making sororities very expensive. As you can see, thousands of dollars on an organization per semester can really add up in the end, making sororities classist. These sororities are classist because only wealthy women can afford to partake in them, not even letting people of lower economic status join.
To add, sororities control what you post on social media, what you are allowed to say, and what you are allowed to do. For many of them, it is simply just them trying to protect their reputation by excluding anything “raunchy” out of the picture. It is odd that people let random women dictate what they can and cannot do, and almost seems dictator-like. For example, these women are not allowed to consume alcohol during rush, not allowed to wear letters out drinking or partying, cannot post photos where there is alcohol or where they may look intoxicated.
Adding on, sororities often look down at people who are not involved in greek life. These people are often referred to as “geeds,” which means someone who is not apart of a fraternity or a sorority. They will use the term “geed” to try and put people down for the sole purpose that they are not apart of Greek Life. A common mentality for sorority girls is that they are prettier and more entitled just because they belong to a large Greek organization, I have noticed this on my campus.
Unfortunately, sororities are very fake. Having personal experience myself, I have heard multiple stories of girls trashing on their “sisters” and putting them down in the process. For an organization that is supposed to be about loving one another and empowering each other, it seems to do the opposite of that. I have heard multiple stories of girls hooking up with their “sister’s” boyfriend and that is so wrong on many levels. In sororities, these girls are supposed to be your friends and sisters, so it bothers me to see so many women turning their back on their so called “sister.”
Overall, due to the harmful nature that comes with being in a sorority, many people opt out. I personally, dropped my sorority after a year just because I unveiled all the discriminatory traits that comes along with being in a Greek chapter. Although sororities are usually a big part of campus and partying, you do not need to be in one to feel valid. There are always plenty of other clubs and sports that a campus has to offer.
2 thoughts on “sorority= Toxicity”
I think this is the reason why so many women are afraid of the whole “rush” process! It is almost like you are being put on a pedestal for the judgment of others. Also, the toxic idea that plus-size women do not “fit” the image of the sorority is insane!
I agree…I personally felt super intimidated by the process for several of the reasons you mention. The one sorority I felt I might fit in/ had friends in was coined the ‘Donut Grabbers’– what a turn off !! Reflecting back, I feel like a large part of my of sense of being ‘out of place’ my first semester here can be attributed to my experiences with Greek life on campus…there was a lot of pressure to conform/ shame for being different.