I stumbled upon an interesting article based on a study that found doctors and adolescent patients barely even touch on the topic of sex, which is a little ridiculous considering it is probably one of the most important conversations teens need to have. Now, I can completely relate to this because I never really had a big “sex talk”. One day I told my Mom I wanted to go on birth control because I heard it helped acne and periods and that was the only reason (right.) She skeptically agreed and then when I got sick and had to get antibiotics and had a boyfriend at the time, all she said was “Antibiotics make the birth control part of your birth control not work so just watch it, we don’t want any little babies running around here” …..awkward I didn’t think she knew I was having sex. I think lots of people can relate to this kind of interaction. Back to the study and the importance of talking about SEX…
The study posted on JAMA Pediatrics stated that doctors spend an average of 36 seconds talking about sex. They found that could be even shorter if parents were present in the room. The problem here is that adolescents are in a very interesting phase in their life where they are figuring all of that out mixed with all sorts of pressure around them. Having more in depth conversations about sex could help them become more comfortable in their own skin regarding sexual intercourse, sexual orientation, masturbation, etc.
I think this is tied to the larger issue of how taboo sex is in our culture. To me, it’s all a little ass backwards. In some senses it seems like sex is the center of everything, from TV to music to politics to selling basically anything. On the other hand, it seems like we are so uncomfortable talking about sex that we avoid it and let everyone figure it out on their own, just like doctors and patients do. I think we let it be this unrealistic idealistic type of sex like we see in the media but when it comes to the real deal sex conversations we’d just rather not talk because we want to keep it “sexy” and not real (unintended pun, but I kind of liked it). I agree with this article that developing those conversations between teens and doctors could really help bridge gaps and give good, credible information to people that need it! I also think making this a more comfortable conversation would help everyone be more accepting of all types of sexual orientations, which would be a beautiful thing, especially for our youth!
What do you all think? Leave a comment about an awkward sex talk or your thoughts on more sex talk or absolutely anything at all!