Good Evening wonderful people of the internet!
Since I’m new here I thought you all should know something about me. I LOVE to dance. I love it. I’m not trained in any way, in fact, I’m more of the dancing down the isle of a store that starts playing a song I like, type of dancer. As someone who frequents the dance floor and loves to break it down, there is something I need to address. Grinding. Now I am not going to post about how it’s terrible and needs to be abolished, don’t stress. I just think it needs to be modified, specifically regarding consent.
Many of us are familiar with the throwback hit Flap Your Wings by Nelly or more recently F*cking Problems by A$AP Rocky which references the first song. Inspired by that tune- I’m proposing a new dance, the “Turn Around and Get Your Feminist On”.
It’s a familiar scene. You hit the bar/club/house party/anywhere with a dance floor and your favorite song comes on. You make your way to the dance floor, drawn by the pumping rhythm. You see a couple friends and you all move to the beat, smiling, laughing, and enjoying yourselves. Suddenly, you have a little company on your back side. Yup, someone has latched on to your booty and initiated a dance with you. Did you want to dance with them? Do you know their name? Who is this mysterious booty latcher?! I’ve participated in and seen various scenarios like this and people tend to either stay in the dance, walk away, or grab a friend to pull them away. Here are the steps to follow my “dance” of choice: Turn Around and Get Your Feminism On.
– You feel someone grinding up behind you.
– Turn around.
– Put your hand out (initiating a hand shake) and say: Hi, I’m ______ what’s your name?
– Watch as they confusingly and awkwardly introduce themselves.
– Then follow up with a: Nice to meet you ______, if you would like to dance with me here is your opportunity to ask.
– Once they ask, it is up to you on how you proceed. If you want to dance with them, go ahead! If not, don’t!
I have been doing this every time someone sneak attacks me from the back for about a year and overall I must say, most of the people didn’t mean to ignore getting my consent, it’s just a norm they follow. Once I Turn Around and Get My Feminist On, I break the ice and the norm and establish a more meaningful interaction. I’ve even made some friends. Not to mention, I have avoided many uncomfortable dance situations I didn’t want to be a part of in the first place.
Join me! Before you drop down and get your eagle on with someone you might not want to dance with, Stand Up and Get Your Feminist On! What do you think? Would you try it? Have you tried it? Comment and let me know! Let’s start a movement my beautiful people of JMU!