Will the real Mrs. Carter please stand up?

Beyoncé was recently criticized as being a hypocrite after naming her concert series The Mrs. Carter World Tour and coming out with the single Bow Down. Both the title and the song boast her marriage with rapper and entrepreneur Shawn Carter, better known as Jay-Z.

Of course Beyoncé did not take this criticism quietly and came back with this statement-

“I guess I am a modern-day feminist…

I do believe in equality. Why do you have to choose what type of woman you are? Why do you have to label yourself anything? I’m just a woman, and I love being a woman.

I feel like Mrs. Carter is who I am, but more bold and more fearless than I’ve ever been. It comes from knowing my purpose and really meeting myself once I saw my child. I was like, ‘OK, this is what you were born to do’. The purpose of my body became completely different.”

“Why do you have to label yourself anything?”

I love that – why label yourself? The beauty of feminism is that it’s purpose is to give the right to choose for yourself what you want to do and be. Beyoncé has had, and continues to have, a successful career and a beautiful relationship with her daughter and husband. If this is what Beyoncé wants this is what she deserves.

It brings up questions that my friends and I have asked ourselves and each other over dinner and drinks, ‘will you keep your last name?’, ‘would your boyfriend feel uncomfortable making less money than you?’, ‘would you quit your job for your family?’ .

Being a young woman, I had never realized how many of our decisions lie not only on our choices, but also on the choices of our significant other. My friends have discussed where they’re going to live and what they’re going to do with their partners, and these conversations blow my mind. I cannot even FATHOM making such a huge decision based off of someone else’s goals. So many women sacrifice dreams of moving away from home, getting a job in a city they’ve always wanted to live in, and making career choices they’ve always thought they would make, all because it doesn’t fit into their partner’s life plan. Do these sacrifices happen all through out the course of our lives?

I had a conversation with my mom one time about her failed marriage and how the worst part of a relationship is that one person at any given time is not getting what they want. A successful relationship is based off of sacrificing and giving and taking – so when did the giving aspect get shifted to women and the taking aspect get shifted to men?

Unfortunately, women like Beyoncé are a rarity. There are few women who I have talked to that are 100 percent able to do exactly what it is that they want to do. I hope one day I can say I am doing exactly what I want to, and have not had to sacrifice anything for me to get there. One day I hope I can frequent those conversations, where women speak about all the things they were able to gain throughout their life rather than all the things they’ve had to give up.

Like Beyoncé said “Why do you have to choose what type of woman you are?”

Because

“I’m just a woman, and I love being a woman.”

2 thoughts on “Will the real Mrs. Carter please stand up?

  1. Love this post because I love Beyonce!! I think she is such a powerful woman in the public eye and she stands up for the right things in life! It is crazy to think about all of the things that must be given up in a relationship, but if it works out then it is all worth it in the end!

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  2. This is a really interesting topic. Beyonce, as an individual, is (as you’ve said) completely capable and justified in making decisions about what she wants to do and how she wants to define herself. I think your point about her choosing who she wants to be is powerful- the goal of feminism isn’t to have everyone be the same.
    However, I’m interested in her defense of her decision to name her tour the Mrs. Carter World Tour. Though I think it’s wonderful that she loves her husband so much and is proud of him, I think it’s interesting that she justifies naming it what she did by talking about her role as a mother. It’s great that she has found that to be a true calling of hers (and let’s not forget that the sheer fact that she’s going on tour means that she isn’t sacrificing her career for her parenting role), but calling herself “Mrs. Carter” doesn’t so much call attention to her as a mother as it does to her as a wife. Particularly because she is so recognizable and Jay-Z’s last name isn’t, I’m still uncertain about why she would make this choice.
    I really liked reading this post. It definitely made me think.

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