Imagine a world without the option of rape. Men and women are educated from an early age that forcing someone to have sex without consent is very wrong, and should never happen. Everyone abides by all aspects of this rule, including the least known: intoxicated consent is not consent. I’m also imagining a world where my cynicism is not clouded fiercely by unicorns and glorious rainbows shining down on my forehead. Regardless, we do not live in this world, and rape happens, and it happens to good people, and for some unknown and fucked up reason, people like to believe that silence means “yes” and that “no” for some reason also means “yes.”
I was almost in tears this week as I read about a group of boys in New Zealand who created a club called the “Roast Busters” who decided it was not only okay to intoxicate young girls, but also take that opportunity to rape them on film. The police have done absolutely nothing to deal with these despicable creatures because of a lack of evidence. Or maybe the fact that one of the boy’s fathers is an officer himself. Either way, it sickens me to no end.
Also across the internet is something that not only admits that rape happens, but that there is nothing we as women can do about it. Therefore, we must lock our panties up tight and hope that a good pair of undies will stop someone who wants to rape you. This new line of anti-rape underwear is on a fundraising website called Indiegogo in order to raise $50,000 for these panties to be put on the market. They say that these are best worn when out jogging at night, or when out at the club having fun. However, they are missing huge points about how rape actually occurs.
- First and foremost, I do not believe locking your underwear down makes you any less safe from rape. No matter how strong the fabric is, if someone wants to take advantage of you, they will.
- Rape most often happens by someone you know. Therefore the expectation is that you must wear this underwear in all situations, thus inheriting a chastity belt.
- This implies we must have to protect ourselves from all situations, thus always living in fear of day to day activities.
We need education, not more reasons for “prevention.” I also do not want to wear locked-down undies on a daily basis, as if announcing to the world that I am trying to protect my innocence. These are a reason to control a woman’s body, not protect her from potential harm. They have raised $38,199 out of the $50,000, with over two weeks left to go. That money should be going to education systems to better inform the public about what rape is, not to create an underwear for the scared white girls going to the club on Friday night. What do you think about these? Is there merit to creating a prevention method? Or are we molding rape back to the responsibility of women to avoid rape once again?