Carly Quaglio (displayed as ‘carly’) and Katie Sensabaugh (displayed as ‘me’), bitch it out about guys who find someway or another to add an extra touch of humiliation on an already embarrassing moment. Why do they always have to do that?!
me: hey carly!
carly: Hey katie, what’s up?
me: just studying in the library..blah
carly: that’s finals week for you…except i’m at home
me: yeah..I wish I was..but the new puppy is SO distracting and there’s a cute guy who works here so it’s not too bad he’s your type
carly: oh yeah? i wonder what his name is. SO listen to what happened to me the other day
me: k. I need a break from studying anyway
carly: I went for a run and i was waiting at one of the intersections near campus. near forest hills actually. you know, minding my business waiting for the pedestrian signal to change so i can safely cross right?
me: yeah, got it got it
carly: hahaha
me: (equivalent to head nods)
carly: okay so these two guys are in this big suv, they have their windows down and they’re being goofy and BLASTING this music and rapping and dancing to it and just generally being obnoxious. so they start looking at me at rapping to me and doing all these goofy dance moves towards me when their light turns green
me: that’s awkward
carly: everyone behind them is honking and yelling but they can’t hear anything because they have their music too loud and are harrassing me. so finally seeing the people behind them, I gesture to them that the light is green and they should go (usually a nice thing to do)
me: sounds nice
carly: as I do this we make eye contact, and they see they were holding everyone up. naturally, being the HUMAN that I am I see the guy move his hand up (assuming to wave or give a sign of thanks) so simultaneously I give him a thumbs up
me: hahahaha
carly: only to find that he gives me the middle finger, screams “BITCH!!!” and drives off with his friend
me: what?! that’s so obnoxious. seriously that pisses me off
carly: isn’t that so rude? I mean i was just trying to help him out
me: were they college students?
carly: yes, definitely. i don’t wanna say they had a frat vibe to them because that’s stereotyping…but they had a frat vibe to them
me: ugh. that’s disgusting. you should write a dart to them. or a letter to the editor. seriously, that’s ridiculous
carly: i know there was so much going on in my head. it’s like they felt they had to publicly humiliate me just because i corrected them. “corrected.” all i was trying to do was help
me: and it sucks because the humiliation was probably successful. it happens to me on the regs
carly: ugh. do share
me: okay..I have a similar story that I just remembered about a frat guy except I thought I was good friends with this guy, so it’s even more awkward. my favorite restaurant in town has awesome happy hour deals. so after a particularly rough week, I went downtown with my boyfriend to have a few drinks. we are almost finished with our meal and I see someone I know from school..who knows me…and I wave at him
carly: nice nice. i do that al the time with my bf
me: he doesn’t wave back..so I’m thinking. Okay, I know this guy knows who I am, so I’ll wave again if he walks back the other direction. I wave again..with him literally staring right back at me..and nothing. he doesn’t even acknowledge we’re in the same universe. it gets worse
carly: uh oh
me: just to give a mental image since i can’t act it out via gchatting my boyfriend and i are at the counter. this friend/ex-friend I was waving to was walking behind me so I turn my head around to try to get his attention one more time.
carly: i hope he wasnt giving you the finger
me: and it’s clear he’s not acknowledging me. SO my boyfriend nonchalantly puts his hand on my face to physically turn my head back around to the wall. He literally moves my head away from this guy…while this guy is staring but not responding. I was HUMILIATED. seriously. not only was this guy ignoring me, but he witnessed my boyfriend putting his hand on my face to break the stare
carly: ugh that’s a double whammy. first this guy is trying to embarrass you and then your boyfriend does that? what is that about
me: i know right, even though I’m fine and I eventually got over it, i’m pissed that guys have the capability to make us feel humiliated. you know?
carly: exactly. and they probably think they’re being funny and goofing off, and your boyfriend probably thought he was trying to get you to stop worrying about that rude guy, it just goes to show that in reality it has more to do with power structures between men and women in the public sphere. deep down i think men are ingrained to think that’s still “their” realm
me: they need to be the ones to “get over it” and let us deal with our own issues and let us embarrass ourselves without making us embarrassed that we’re embarrassed, you know? cause I would’ve gotten over being embarrassed about the guy who didn’t acknowledge me…just like you would’ve gotten over it if they just drove off after their awkward rap performance. but the middle finger and the hand on the face makes it worse
carly: exactly. it’s like he felt embarrassed for acting like an idiot and holding everyone up, but instead of acknowledging that he transferred it to me so that he could look “smart” or the one in power or whatever again
me: yeah. ugh.
carly: and I would look like a fool
me: yep
carly: which (thumbs up) i did! haha
me: hahaha. well i should get back to studying for exams. booo. I’ll talk to you soon though! Thanks for listening to me bitch!
carly: same here. i hope you can “deal with” your exams. likewise!
me: yeah..or just “get over” them good luck!
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