While browsing articles on goodmenproject I stumbled upon an article entitled “7 Things Sex Education Should Have Taught Us But Didn’t” and boy was it perfect!
1. There’s more to sex than biology
2. How to respect personal boundaries
3. Sex is not a reflection of your value as a person
4. Different sexual orientations are natural
5. Where the damn clitoris is and what it’s for
6. How men and women experience sex differently
7. Great relationships mean great sex
Okay but really, this list is superb (#5, am I right??!) the only issue that I had with this article was #6.
I agree with him when he says “Men and women differ in some ways and both genders should be treated with equal respect for those differences. (Why do people make this so complicated?)” Snaps for you bro you totally hit the nail on the head! But then he goes on to say:
“What should also be taught is how men and women’s sex drives differ, how women are more sexually fluid in their desires, how men are more physical and visually oriented in arousal, and how, on average…, they usually want to have sex more often and with a wider variety of partners.”
Yes, women are more fluid in their desires. But to say that our sex drives differ (debatable), that men are more physical/visually oriented in arousal (So…what arouses women? Poems and chocolate?) and that only men want to have sex often and with lots of partners (only sluts enjoy sex and different partners right?) is B.S. So to say that these misconceptions should be taught to pre-teens is kind of scary!
What do you guys think about this list, specifically #6?
ShoutOut! James Madison University 
I completely agree with your analysis of the sixth point. It is critical to breakdown the idea that men and women are so fundamentally different when in reality we are more alike than we are dissimilar. This idea perpetuates rape culture (ie: men can’t stop once they start or men can’t help themselves, not to mention the idea that women can’t be rapists). While comments like #6 seem harmless, they are so covertly dangerous. Thanks for calling this out!
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Thanks truequeerlatte!! I’m really glad you agree because I feel like comments like #6 have been thrown at me since I was young and if you get told something enough you’re likely to just believe it. I feel like college was the point where I was just like “F what society says, this is how I feel.” I love that you connected this to perpetuating rape culture, I didn’t even think of that but you are so right! Thanks for the comment 🙂
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